Clergy Spouses Ain’t on the Payroll, People!
Seriously, y’all. Clergy spouses are NOT on the church payroll, and we should not have pre-conceived notions on how they should engage in the life of our church. We can likely all remember a day when we had a male pastor whose wife did not have a paying job outside of the home. They taught Sunday School, played the piano or sang in the choir, showed up with the most fabulous dishes possible at the church potluck and were present at every single ministry opportunity that took place in and through the church. They worked with the youth, they visited the elderly, and they stood at the back of the church greeting folks with their clergy spouse after worship. They also brought their well groomed and perfectly behaved children with them to each and every church function and the doors were always open at the parsonage for folks to drop by any time they’d like for a cup of coffee and a piece of pie.
Ok, so maybe I’ve taken it a little too far, but you get the idea. Times have changed people! The expectations I have described were not fair then and they are certainly not fair now. Clergy spouses are individuals with varying spiritual gifts, interests and availability. They should be allowed to engage in the life of the church as they feel led and we need to accept that. And that is all that I have to say about that.
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Claire – Clergy Spouses Ain’t on the Payroll – 03.29.2016
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